18K views · 15K reactions | Time outs work AGAINST your discipline. Discipline means “teaching” and time-outs teach the WRONG thing. They don’t teach emotional regulation; they teach emotional avoidance and suppression. DONT GET ME WRONG they are FAR from the worst punishment. Let’s not overstate the “harm” here. There are just MUCH better options. I discuss a lot of those in my book. Comment “PFP” if you want me to send you the link. | WholeParent | Facebook

When a child is hitting and screaming, it’s important to address the behavior calmly and constructively. And not use blame/shame. Try these tips: 1️⃣ Stay calm and focus on breathing slowly. It send a message to our brain that things are under control. 2️⃣ Go close to the child and use physical touch. It makes them feel safe and they listen better. 3️⃣ Encourage the child to express their feelings verbally. “What made you angry?” 4️⃣ Teach alternative ways to cope with frustration or express the

2.2K views · 52 reactions | A new bench with a bronze statue of a little girl in a “time out” was installed on campus this summer, honoring the #UHManoa professor who created the concept, which has been popular with parents for decades now ➡️ https://bit.ly/3LexEiT #ExploreUHM | University of Hawaii at Manoa | Facebook

In a world full of noise, understanding why a child (or a teen) screams can be the first step to calming the chaos. Always keep in mind that if they are screaming, it’s not to annoy you. It’s a desperate call to be heard, for understanding, or release. It's their unfiltered voice piercing through, asking us to listen, to understand. Instead of punishing them and sending them to their room, what if we make it a rule in our families that every voice will be heard? Make it a kind of promise - every