Choosing Your Spouse Daily. Marriage doesn’t run on vows you made once. It runs on decisions you make every day. You choose them when you listen instead of shutting down. You choose them when you apologize without defending yourself. You choose them when you protect the marriage in public and fix issues in private. You choose them when feelings fade and commitment has to lead. Love is not the feeling that comes and goes. Love is the discipline to keep choosing the same person, especially on hard